Anger at Home and Among Believers

01/26/19 (11/19) Video Broadcast

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Alright, well we’re ready to begin our study portion for today’s broadcast. How many people out there just have a-you know, an occasional problem with anger? We talked in our previous segment about the anger problems that people have, and, you know, I don’t claim to be totally immune to it. I got a little bit perturbed earlier today, when I thought someone was gonna knock the camera over. LOL! One minute please. So, pardon me for a minute there. So, anyway-yeah, I thought someone was gonna knock the camera over today; I yelled. I shouldn’t have yelled or should I-I don’t know. I didn’t feel angry, but I did yell. So, anyway-I’ll tell you what. Anger is a normal emotion, but we never want to use it to hurt somebody. You never want to use it out of self-self doesn’t get what it wants-kind of anger. We just want to make sure we’re on the right side of things, and I did talk about that here at the previous segment about anger. But we want to continue this topic, and today we’re gonna discuss the issue of ANGER AT HOME AND AMONG BELIEVERS. Anger at Home and Among Believers. That is where anger usually finds its way is at home among people that we’re close to. It’s kind of ironic, you know, that the people we love the most are the people with whom we tend to have the greatest issue with anger. It’s because we do love them. And, it’s kind of a strange and perplexing thing to say, isn’t it? But it’s true-what it means is-those who we are close to have the greatest capacity to hurt us. I’ll say it again-those who we are close to have the greatest capacity to hurt us because we love them and when they do things that they shouldn’t do to us, we are, you know, because we have that connection with them, we are more likely to get angry. And that’s just kind of a natural thing because the more we love somebody, the more it hurts when they do something that we regard as harmful to us. We have a greater expectation of having that love being returned. And so, whether it’s with a spouse or with our children or our parents or brothers and sisters, the anger is more likely to rise up with people that we’re close to than with some stranger on the street. And so, we have to be most on guard against harmful anger at home and among believers, among our family members-both spiritual family and our physical family that Yahweh has given us. So, we have to be thinking about that as we’re discussing this topic today of Anger at Home and Among Believers. And our- text we’re gonna look at here: ‘You shall not go about as a talebearer among your people; nor shall you take a stand against the life of your neighbor: I am Yahweh. ‘You shall not hate your brother in your heart. You shall surely rebuke your neighbor, and not bear sin because of him. ‘You shall not take vengeance, nor bear any grudge against the children of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself: I am Yahweh. So, bearing grudges, taking vengeance, these are all manifestations of anger that is seething, and anger comes out of these things. So, we have to be aware of this thing-He says-don’t hate your brother in your heart. I’ve actually heard believers say – “I cannot stand her-I hate that person.” No, we’re supposed to love even our enemies, right? Even our enemies, we’re supposed to love. Now the word translated vengeance here in this scripture: to avenge, take vengeance, revengeful feelings, and so, we have here in Romans 12:19, he says: Beloved, do not avenge yourselves-it’s based on the scripture-do not avenge yourselves, rather give place to wrath; for it is written, “Vengeance is Mine, I will repay,” – so vengeance and wrath are kind of interconnected, aren’t they? Therefore, “If your enemy is hungry, feed him; if he is thirsty, give him a drink; for in so doing you will heap coals of fire on his head.” Do not be overcome by evil, but overcome evil with good. Hallelujah! That’s. what we need to do. So, there’s our text. And we have to be aware of this; this is a commandment from the Most-High. We spoke about last week regarding the difference between righteous and unrighteous anger. We’re gonna talk about this unrighteous anger in more depth. To avenge ourselves, of course, is an act of anger and wrath. So, what we wanna do here is we want to let Yahweh be the one who takes the vengeance. We want Him to be the one that will repay. We don’t have to repay somebody for the thing they did. You know-there’s the “Golden Rule” – Do unto others as you would have others do unto you, right? But then, there’s the perverted golden rule which says – Do unto others before they do unto you or-Do unto others just as they’ve done unto you. And that’s the perversion. Now the worldly version of the “Golden Rule”. I’ll call it the “Black Rule” – how about that? The “Dark Rule” – that’s the rule that many people are willing to follow. You know it’s not our place to express these things; it is for Yahweh to exhibit the necessary wrath and vengeance, and so we have to be careful we’re not placing ourselves in His position; this is His position-not our position. And so, if we allow ourselves to do it instead of letting Him do it, we’re basically making an Elohim-or Mighty One out of ourselves or we’re considering ourselves to be the agent of vengeance instead of stepping out of the way and letting our Heavenly Father deal with those things. That’s not our place. Scripture says in Proverbs chapter 29, verse 22: An angry man stirs up strife-right? Proverbs 15:3: The eyes of Yahweh are in every place, keeping watch on the evil and the good. So, His eyes are the ones watching, so-this a lot of times is a problem that exists in the household where we think nobody else is watching. Now, if you think you cannot control your anger, try to think back to the last time you were in the middle of a heated argument with your spouse, or maybe your children-hopefully not your children or your spouse, but if it ever happened. And all of a sudden “ding-dong” – company comes to the door. BAM! – You snap out of it; you’re not angry anymore-everyone acts normal-a smile on their face-LOL-like nothing ever happened. Don’t tell me you have no control over your anger; under the right circumstances, you do have control over your anger. Now, imagine the one at the door is Yahushua, the Messiah-He’s standing at the door, right? He’s standing at the door-what if He’s not standing at the door-what if He’s in the room watching-the evil and the good? All of a sudden, perspective changes. And just because you do not see Him, does not mean He isn’t there. He is there-in fact, He dwells in us, and we’re supposed be manifesting His character traits-He doesn’t have any character flaws. We’re supposed to be manifesting His character rather than our character flaws. And so, as parents and as husbands and wives, we are in a place where we have a Father in Heaven whose eyes are in every place, keeping watch on things. Now, toward our children, we have a tremendous amount of power. I’ve heard it said – a man’s character isn’t always revealed through testing and trials and tribulations. See what happens when a man is given power. If he’s given power, sometimes in those circumstances, you see what’s really stewing in that person’s heart, and what’s really going on. So, here we have parents-pretty much-are in a position of having a lot of power and a lot of influence, right? Over the hearts of our children, right? Didn’t Yahushua say “Take heed that you don’t despise one of these little ones”? If anyone was to cause one of them to stumble, it’d be like taking a millstone hanging around your neck, and let that be cast into the sea, right? So, we need to think about this, and we are actually the chief influence over our children. And once, there was this man who brought his children to a counselor-his son to a counselor because his son had an anger problem, and he wanted to see if he could help this boy’s anger problem be resolved. So, anyway, they’re in a counseling room and guess what? - the boy just would not cooperate – he’d just sit there-mumble a few words-no cooperation. And the father got upset with the boy and says – “I’ve spent all this money, I’ve done all this stuff, and you will not cooperate” – all these things he starts yelling at his boy, right there in front of the counselor. And the counselor turned to him and said – “If you want to know why your boy has an anger problem, look at what just happened in this room today. He’s getting it from you-that’s where he’s getting his anger problems from-you. And the scriptures actually tell us don’t make friendship with an angry man because you’ll learn his ways and set a snare for your soul. And so, as we are in our households in the privacy there, we have not only the potential of hurting our children with our anger, we also have the potential of setting an example for them-that’s a very poor example that we don’t want them to stumble and fall over. So, our goal is to provoke one another in our spirit-in the spirit of a man, and so instead of provoking the flesh, we provoke the spirit, then the Holy Spirit can be used by us to lead somebody to a higher walk, right? That’s our intention. Okay. So, when we’re looking at the home life, we need to realize that the children that we have-really, they’re not our children-they are Yahweh-our Heavenly Father’s children-they are His children. And so, since they are His children, we need to ask ourselves-we are as stewards in the care of these children - How are we treating His children? Suppose He gave us children that would be on loan for a while, and He told us - “Show them how I am. Live yourself in such a way that you manifest My character”. And then see what happens. How would your perspective change in that circumstance? Those are the questions we have to ask ourselves. So, we need to have a proper reverence toward the Most-High and make sure we’re not doing things that would harm His children. These are His children, and we’re just caretakers of them. We are called to love them, to bless them, to serve them. Now we want to allow our words to be words that bring life because a wholesome tongue is a tree of life, a perverseness in it breaks the spirit, right? So, just one minute here. I guess my PowerPoint is messed up. But in Proverbs 15, verse 4: A wholesome tongue is a tree of life, but perverseness in it breaks the spirit. Now our words are called to be marpe, which is words of healing; words that bring health-words that build up-not words that wound. Say, for instance-and some people are more easily wounded than others. Suppose you had a big wound right here on your shoulder, okay? – and someone come along and bumped it-well you’re more likely to yell out, right? – and have a very strong expressive response in that situation, right? So, in the same way, all of us really; very few of us go through life and have no wounds whatsoever, okay? As parents, and as husbands in particular, we are called to cover the wounds of our family members with our hand, and not allow others to hurt them, right? That’s our goal. And at the same time, we should never be one to hurt them. In fact, we should be one to protect them. And if we accidentally hurt somebody-let’s say we made somebody trip and fall and they hurt themselves-wouldn’t we rush over and say – “I’m so sorry-will you please forgive me?” And likewise, we need to understand that when we hurt someone with our words, we should have the same amount of love and concern in the event that we were to do that, right? Maybe the other person wasn’t acting correctly, but sometimes their wrong actions are caused by the wounds we’ve actually inflicted in the past. And yet, we will not allow that wound time to heal because we keep bumping it again, and again, and again. We want our words of correction-our words to be words of life-not words that wound. That’s the way of truth. We’re called to walk out the meekness of wisdom. You know what? – our children have some overcoming to do-our spouses have some overcoming to do-our brothers in the faith have some overcoming to do. You know what? – so do we. And if we correct others-we hurt others with our words in a harsh correction, then we can ask ourselves – How would we want to be spoken to if we had the same problem? What would be the most effective way to reach us? And sometimes the way that might be helpful to us actually wouldn’t be helpful to somebody else. So, we need to be aware of these things. Our text we’re gonna look at here is from Deuteronomy chapter 6, and verse 5. “You shall love Yahweh your Elohim with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your strength. “And these words which I command you today shall be in your heart. “You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, when you walk by the way, when you rise up, and when you lie down. The word translated “diligently” in the Hebrew is a word often translated "sharp" or "sharpen". Now when you are sharpening an instrument-a knife for instance-how many people go along with the sharpening stone and just take the knife and just go “swoosh” (one time) – “alright it’s done-we’re sharp.” It doesn’t work that way, does it? You have to keep working it over and over and over again until finally it is sharpened, right? And so, he is saying you need to teach them over and over frequently, over and over to your children, and by that they will be sharpened. We’re fashioning arrows for the Kingdom to go out and make exploits for the King of Kings-to do damage to the enemy. We’re sharpening them in their character; repeating is how we do so. So, we don’t have to go – “Oh man, how many times have I told you” – you know, how many times has Yahweh told us something-we need to hear it again. So, repeating is what teaches us sometimes-helps us to remember. For those of you who are struggling with these areas, you may have to listen to this study again and again-to get it instilled in your mind and actually overcome the anger issues. If you want to learn multiplication tables, or know a school subject well-there are drills and other methods that are used to make a permanent imprint in our minds, and Yahweh knows that we are prone to forgetting, and so He wants us to look at things again, and again and again, right? So, He says “You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes - right? “You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates. So, repeating-seeing something in front of you on a frequent basis-number 1, it shows that we care-we care about the words of our Father in Heaven, right? And so, the reason why we want to have it before us all the time is so that we don’t forget-so that we remember-because we don’t want to forget His ways. Because His ways are the ways of love. His ways are the ways of truth. And so, we want to impart His loving ways to others-to our children-to our family members-to people who are in this world. And there are people that Yahweh has placed in the body of Messiah to repeat these things, to remind us, to teach, and to help us know the words that Yahweh has given: He Himself gave some to be apostles, some prophets, some evangelists, and some pastors and teachers, for the equipping of the saints for the work of the ministry, for the edifying of the body of Messiah, till we all come to the unity of the faith and of the knowledge of the Son of Elohim, to a perfect man, to the measure of the stature of the fullness of Messiah. Ultimately, we are the apostle, prophet, evangelist, pastor and teacher of our children, and where we may lack, Yahweh places ministries in the body of Messiah to help bring all of us, including our children to maturity. And so, we want to be mature believers. We want to grow; we want to be all that Yahweh has called us to be, right? And so, He places people in the body of Messiah to help us in our spiritual growth; to bring us to a place where we are mature, and so, that’s why we have the body of the Messiah: So that we should no longer be children, tossed to and fro and carried about with every wind of doctrine, by the trickery of men, in the cunning craftiness of deceitful plotting, but, speaking the truth in anger-no wait a minute-no-speaking the truth in what? – in love, right? - may grow up in all things into Him who is the head—Messiah—from whom the whole body, joined and knit together by what every joint supplies, according to the effective working by which every part does its share, causes growth of the body for the edifying of itself in love. Once again, in love. That’s what we’re called to do. So, we’re gonna share the truth that we have in love-that is the key. In fact, if it’s not done in love, we’re not handling the law in a lawful way. You know, scripture says that the law is good if we handle it lawfully. We want to handle the law lawfully. So, we speak the scriptures, we want to speak the truth, but also recognizing the purpose for which it is given. Remember that Yahweh’s Word is a sword; a sword is meant to come in and do surgery in our heart; not cut the person to pieces. We want the sword to do surgery and get the yucky part out of our heart without damaging that which is good. We want to cut the thorns out of the soil without damaging the original plant. The sword is there to destroy the old man and his deeds-be careful how we use it. Even our quotes of scripture can be rooted in hatred; we’re trying to cut the person down a notch rather than do surgery and remove the unpleasant fruit from the person’s heart. So, our motive should be grace and love-not condemnation and hurt and vengeance-getting back at somebody for how they have done or treated us, right? So, let no corrupt word proceed out of our mouth-no-no corrupt word proceed out of our mouth, but that which is for the edifying of Yahweh’s people. Just one minute here.
So let no corrupt word proceed out of your mouth, but what is good for necessary edification, that it may impart grace to the hearers. And do not grieve the Holy Spirit of Elohim, by whom you were sealed for the day of redemption. Hallelujah! Good words-convicting words! If it’s not edifying, it’s not worth saying. Some people-they actually fancy themselves
and say – “You know what – I’m honest. I just tell how it is. I’m gonna be brutally honest; at least I’m being honest, you know.” But ask yourselves-maybe is it possible that your so-called “brutally honest” is just brutal-not just brutally honest-just flat out brutal; they can’t hear that way. Ask yourself your so-called “brutally honest” ways-are you imparting grace and then edification? It’s harder work to word something in such a way that it doesn’t hurt the person, but addresses the problem itself. And so, we want our words to be inspired by Yahweh’s Spirit because we’ve spoken it in love with the fruits of patience, longsuffering, kindness, and gentleness rather than grieving the Holy Spirit as it says. So, don’t let corrupt words come out of your mouth and grieve the Holy Spirit of Elohim. So, then you have people that justify themselves saying- “Well Yahushua called people whitewashed tombs and serpents in a brood of vipers" - and they use that to justify themselves, but you need to understand Yahushua was not speaking to believers, He was speaking to bloodthirsty men-murderers, charlatans, pretenders-people who held the awe and respect of the people-people who robbed the houses of widows and yet, were held in the highest esteem among the people. He needed to expose their lawless deeds so that people would not be driven to follow these men; they were blind men leading the blind. And He, being an agent of Yahweh Himself, would have the authority to treat those men in such a way, but we have to be careful we’re not taking too much upon ourselves, and that we’re not trying to find ways to justify our bitterness and justify our pride getting hurt, and therefore we’re getting angry. So, unless we’re looking at the same exact situation Yahushua was in, I’d say you’d better not use that as an example to justify yourself because Yahushua really wasn’t the one speaking anyway. He was a prophet; he was from Yahweh, right? And so, Yahushua actually said The words that I speak to you I don’t not speak on My own; but the Father who dwells in Me does the works. So, make sure yours is from Yahweh. So, the best thing to do is just-don’t let any corrupt word come out of your mouth, and let all bitterness, anger, wrath, clamor, evil speaking be put away from you, and be kind to one another and tenderhearted, forgiving one another as Elohim and Messiah has forgiven you. Our goal is to do things in such a way that we do not harm another person through our words, right? Why? because Love does no harm to a neighbor, and love is the fulfillment of the law. If you are using the law to harm another person, you are not fulfilling it; you are not keeping it yourself-you are actually being hypocritical in your ways. So, please understand-your wounding your family with your words; you’re sinning against Yahweh-you’re not fulfilling the Torah; you are not walking in Torah observance if you’re speaking the word in a way that harms rather than lifts up and directs and convicts rather than condemns. So, if we’re really Torah observant, we really should be the most loving people on the planet. We should be at the top level because the entire law of Yahweh hangs off the two great commands-to love. Torah observant people should be the only full and complete representation of love on the earth; the only full and complete representation of Yahushua the Messiah on the earth. And so, our lives should be a continual manifestation of His character, His love, His life. Is it? I have to say, I mean, among people that believe like me-tends to be a lot more condemnation and hurtful words being spoken. We have a very, very powerful and very sharp sword-we have to be able to handle this correctly. Yahushua did a great job of it. He was more hurt than anybody, right? He didn’t respond with anger or hurtful words. He didn’t. How can we manifest His character? That’s our question-how can we manifest His character? He’s the answer, and we desperately need Him. So, what you need to do is lay down your own will. Lay down your own will, and try to think of life in terms of this-it’s no longer I that live; it’s Yahushua that lives in me-and the life which I now live, I live by faith in the son of Elohim who loved me and gave Himself for me. If you’re having difficulty with anger, take solace in this – Number 1-Yahushua is all we really need-what man does to us should not be so consequential, and don’t let what other people do take the edge off of your love and willingness to invest in the other person. But realize that just as you and I are in continual need of the grace of Yahweh-even when we didn’t know Him-there are other people in the same position that you were. Go easy on them. You need your Father in Heaven to go easy on you, right? I know I need grace every single day, and I need Him to lead me in a way that I can bear. David says about Yahweh – “Your gentleness has made me great”. Think about that-the gentleness of our Heavenly Father toward David is what made David the great man that he was. So, how can your gentleness make another person excel? Your wife, or in the case of the wife, your husband. How can your gentleness cause your children to grow and to excel? How can your gentleness cause another person in the body of Messiah to grow and to excel, and to be all that He’s called him to be? If Yahweh’s gentleness is what makes us excel, then His gentleness ought to just flow right through us. As the parable of the man who owed 10,000 talents, and we owe Yahweh far more than 10,000 talents. We can’t walk over to somebody else who owes us-grab him by the shirt and demand repayment. No-we forgive-we’re willing to set it aside-we’re willing to love the person, no matter what. So, go easy on others-they need it. Now, I’ve heard people get angry whenever someone calls them a name or something, some bad name they don’t really, really like, right? I once heard a story about a man-whenever he called his sister, he would get so angry. And finally, one day his wife says to him – “Why do you get so angry whenever you’re on your phone with your sister?” – “Well, she called me this, and she called me that, and she called me this, and she says I’m this way-I’m not really that way-she called me this that and the other”. And his wife says – “Were any of those things true-what she called you? - “Well, no they weren’t true”, and so his wife says – “Well, what if she called you a pinto bean? “A pinto bean-well it wouldn’t bother me”. “Why not”? “Because I’m not a pinto bean”. Alright, well, you just told me that you weren’t any of those other things either, right?” “So, whenever she starts calling you those things, just pretend like she’s calling you pinto bean because really-none of them fits the bill, right”? None of them make any sense. And all of a sudden, he was able to stop getting angry at his sister because he realized he was actually getting angry over things that he really wasn’t these things that she said he was. But he just let it roll off his back. So, we don’t have to receive what people say of us-they say we’re this, they say we’re that or whatever. Then just say, “Well, I’m not any of those things.” And remember, anger is a real problem-I mean anger is a real problem and we have to be on guard against it. Think about what happened, the very, very first time that anger makes its appearance in the Bible. It was rooted in rejection. It says: Abel brought the firstborn of his flock and of their fat. And Yahweh respected Abel and his offering, but He did not respect Cain and his offering. And Cain was very angry, - right? - and his countenance fell. He sensed the rejection that came from Yahweh, and when Yahweh saw that Cain was angry, what did He tell Cain to do? What did He tell him to do? Let’s look next. It says: So Yahweh said to Cain-just a minute here-I have to make this up as I go. So, Yahweh said to Cain, “Why are you angry? And why has your countenance fallen? “If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin lies at the door. And its desire is for you, but you should rule over it.” So, anger comes in as a challenger wanting to rule over you, and you have to say - “No, I’m going to rule over it because sin lies at the door”. First the anger, then the sin, but Yahweh’s first council was for Cain- “Hey why don’t you just try to do better? - then your offer will be accepted. Put more effort into the offering that you’re giving. You’re not being rejected-just do your best. He wants our best effort. Maybe Cain was not giving his best. Maybe he saw something he really liked like-his mom kind of had that problem and he ate it himself, right? I mean, if so, it makes sense-Cain’s mom was just you know-had a little food issue there. But Yahweh’s council was-even if you didn’t do well-rule over that sin that lies at the door, and don’t let the anger rule over you. You choose to rule over it. Selfish anger is a cruel master; it destroys souls, wrecks marriages, inflicts serious wounds on the hearts of children, leads to foolishness, slander, talebearing, grudges, strife and, as we saw with Cain, even murder. So, Yahweh calls us to rule over it. In fact, there’s a scripture that says: He who is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city. Anger can only be defeated when we humble ourselves and let Yahushua have full reign over us. And we know He’s capable of defeating any and all enemies, right? He has placed all enemies under His feet, right? And so, we need to ask Yahweh through Yahushua the Messiah - "Rule over this anger for me. I don’t want this sin to reign in my mortal body-I don’t want to obey it in its lusts. I want my members to be instruments of righteousness and not unrighteousness. Sin does not have to be over me. I am under grace; sin is not my slave. I through the power of the Messiah Yahushua rule over sin". Right? That’s the perspective that we need to have. And we can rule over sin because sin does not have any dominion over us through Yahushua the Messiah. Now for young people-when we’re being corrected by a parent-take Cain’s advice-don’t choose anger when your parent corrects you. Because the scripture says that: A fool despises his father’s instruction, right? - but he who receives correction is prudent. See, children also can have anger problems, right? And so, don’t despise your father’s instruction-receive it and say “Alright-well, it’ll just make me better.” Right? And even if your father’s instruction seems to be coming out of anger- take David’s approach who said: Let the righteous strike me; it shall be a kindness. Let him rebuke me; it shall be as excellent oil; let my head not refuse it. When good correction is given, even if the delivery of that correction is hurtful, we should consider it, and take heed, rather than despising it, right? We are all ultimately responsible for our own actions. If a parent is being a stumbling block to the children by provoking them to wrath-there’s no excuse for that-no matter how the child may have behaved-and if the child chooses to get angry, bitter, and disrespectful due to the way they’re treated, there’s no excuse for that either-no matter how the parent acted-because we are called to put off these things. As the scripture says- Now you yourselves are to put off all these: - what? - anger, wrath, malice, blasphemy, filthy language out of your mouth. Actually, there’s brothers out there justifying using profanity. The “F-bomb” so to speak, the “S” word-and they think there’s not scripture that speaks against it-not true. Filthy language-it’s you know-if you look this word up in some of the Lexicons that I’ve seen, it basically is talking about the culturally offensive words and slang terms that are culturally offensive. So, this is speaking directly to that very thing that’s in our culture as well. And I can tell you-just from witnessing people who are under demonic possession and listening to their words, it seems like about every other word or anywhere an offensive word or profanity could come out of their mouth, it will. People that are under the power of demonic spirits are most likely to be uttering these profane, filthy words. And so, don’t ever justify it-it’s not from the Holy Spirit-it’s not imparting grace to the hearers, and we are commanded to impart grace to the hearers, And put off the anger and wrath, and malice and blasphemy and filthy language out of our mouths, right? So, none of us can justify our anger-we’re called to walk in love-called to walk in patience. Many times, pride is the source of our anger. If our children are starting to show more and more anger-do a heart check on yourself-talk a look in the mirror-see whether or not you’re the one teaching these character traits. Be accountable to other people who are seeing your anger, and listen to them. You know parents can use a little code word to secretly tell the other partner-they see the other partner displaying anger in their correction. Never aggressively correct the one who’s angry-it only provokes more anger-it escalates the situation. Humble yourselves and realize the other person isn’t the only person in the house, or in the body of Messiah who has this “sin problem”. Maybe they sin differently than you do. Maybe their problem isn’t your problem, but your problem is a sin-their problem is a sin. Get off the high-horse and acknowledge we all are standing before the great and tremendous and tall example of Yahushua the Messiah-who we are still seeking to measure up to His awesome example of love and service-and we all need each other-to remind each other in love – “Hey – is this the Messiah Yahushua coming out right now”? And so, when you realize you’re in the flesh, be willing to apologize to your family member. You know children will actually respect you more if you apologize to them for things that you’ve done? The humble experience will be an internal deterrent actually for the future for yourself and help them to see our faith is not out of reach for them-our faith is not so lofty they could never reach the standard because they know their parents themselves are trying to overcome too, and they’re not acting like they’re perfect either. So, we need to adopt a Biblical leadership style that does not resort to controlling others with raising voices and choosing anger. But rather a proper reverence and use of Yahweh’s Word to develop and to stimulate the conscience. Seek to use ten words of encouragement for every word of correction. I’ve had to apologize many times myself for being negative, and not noticing the positive. But I can tell you, it’s far better to live in an environment of encouragement and building up positive character traits than it is to live in an environment of discouragement and tearing down another for their negative character traits. We all have negative character traits, and if we are humble, we won’t be so quick to hammer another person for their character flaws, right? So, we are all called to build one another up. There’s two ways that we can speak to one another-this is something I’m learning too. Let’s say someone is manifesting pride-rather than point the finger and say – “You’re manifesting pride”, why don’t you say – “Hey, is this humility? I think we’re called to humility”. There’s two different ways of correcting someone-one is pointing out the negative character trait that you’re seeing, and the other one is pointing people toward the positive character trait that we’re all called to emulate. Do you understand what I’m talking about? If someone has a lustful eye, rather than saying – “Aha! – A lustful eye!” – you can say “Hey, we’re all called to purity - let’s walk in purity - let’s walk in goodness - let’s walk in holiness - let’s all check our hearts”. Right? If you see somebody disrespecting the Sabbath day-instead of pointing your finger and saying “Sabbath breaker”, you know-why don't you say - “Hey, let’s keep this day holy-this is a special day for Father in Heaven. Let’s keep it holy". Do you hear the two differences? And, I often have to remind myself of this. I don’t ever point the finger and say “Sabbath breaker”. I’m just saying there’s two ways-but there’s one that is sort of negative-finger pointing, and sometimes anger can come out of that. But it’s a whole lot easier for anger to be set aside when you just say – “Hey-let’s try to walk in humility here. Let’s try to walk in kindness-is what you’re doing-is that kindness”? And the person can say – “No, I guess not.” “Is that putting on tender mercies and longsuffering and meekness there that you’re doing? Let’s walk in tender mercies, longsuffering and meekness.” When someone is choosing anger themselves-a beautiful scripture here- As the elect of Elohim, holy and beloved, let’s put on tender mercies, kindness, humility, meekness, longsuffering; bearing with one another, and forgiving one another, if anyone has a complaint against another; even as Messiah forgave you, so you also must do. But above all these things put on love, which is the bond of perfection. Isn’t that beautiful? Isn’t that just lifting up, encouraging, motivating? – Far more motivating than “you’re this, you’re that”, blah, blah, blah, blah, right? LOL. And one’s kind of prideful way, you know-finger pointing way-we don’t have to finger point-we can just all point to the example of Yahushua. If you’re gonna do some finger pointing, go (point finger up) Him, right? Is this Him? - let’s be like Him. Let the peace of Elohim rule in our hearts, we’re all called to one body; let’s be thankful. Let the word of Messiah dwell in us richly with all wisdom, teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in our hearts to Yahweh. And whatever we do in word or deed, do everything in the name of the Master Yahushua, giving thanks to Elohim the Father through Him. I tell you what – that’s the picture of the kind of home I wanna have, how about you? The kind of home I’d like to live in-the kind of congregation I’d like to be a part of-the kind of world I wanna live in. You know we don’t have a congregation like that unless the homes are like that. There’s no unity in a congregation if the homes are not in unity. Kind of a joke-yeah-the congregation is in unity and the homes are not-it doesn’t work that way. Let’s walk out this calling. Let’s embrace this calling because we are called into one body-teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs-being thankful. Let’s be thankful for one another. Instead of infectious anger, how about infectious joy and encouragement. Instead of infectious discouragement-infectious encouragement. Instead of the leaven of pride-the holy standard of humility-being willing to humble ourselves, and walk in love. Are we ready to do that? Let’s pray.
Thank you, Father Yahweh, for your love and mercies and kindness-your tender mercies, your gentleness that makes us great. Oh Father, help us to walk out your awesome, amazing example of love and mercy toward us. Even while we were yet sinners, Yahushua the Messiah, giving His life for us. Strengthen us Father in our weaknesses. Glorify Your name in the areas that you’ve made us strong, even in our weaknesses, and show us Father, the way of everlasting life. Help us to speak to our family members in ways, when we use Your Word, we use it in a way that You call us to use it. Remind one another of Your holy standard-reminding one another of the example of Your son Yahushua-glorifying You in our conduct and our examples-in our service and our faith. Let it all be that we as Your people be manifesting the righteous and holy example of our Savior, Yahushua the Messiah. For truly Yours is the kingdom, and power and glory and majesty forever and ever and to Him we look. Amein.

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